Is it as sexist if a woman does it?

Interesting post, so I thought I’d share. Take the poll!

Linda G. Hill

Saturday afternoon found yours truly enjoying a beer on the patio of one of Kingston’s livelier establishments. At this particular place, since it is Irish, the waiting staff wear kilts. Both the girls and the guys.

My table was adjacent to a table where three middle-aged women were sitting. Between us, a waiter stood talking to some customers. His back was to the other table. I watched as one of the women extended her arm and wiggled her fingers below the hem of the waiter’s kilt, as though she was going to reach up under it and tickle… something. I didn’t know whether to smile or be appalled. In retrospect, I’m pretty sure it’s the latter.

So let’s see… what is your reaction? Take the poll:

I could probably have come up with some more answers, but I’m interested to see what you have to say. Let’s discuss.

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2 thoughts on “Is it as sexist if a woman does it?

  1. That would fall under the category of Workplace Harassment and is illegal regardless of who does it: customers are not allowed to molest, attack/assault or otherwise threaten employees of a place they are frequenting. When women threaten or harass men and the women have the power, it is still harassment or assault. It is not, however, sexism. Sexism is rooted in the fact that males have the power between the sexes in general and even if in one particular situation, the women/woman has some authority or advantage, in that case, interpersonally (not in a commercial establishment or workplace, as above), that would be bias/prejudice or otherwise insulting or degrading behavior from a woman toward a man, but not sexism.

    Hope that helps.

    YOU could have gone over and spoken sternly to those women, BTW, to tell them their behavior was seen, noted and deemed inappropriate by another customer, and also, told the manager, without putting that waiter on the spot, and not been a silent (and therefore complicit) bystander. If men had been doing that to a female waitron, would you have merely watched?

    Best to you,

    Sally Ember, Ed.D.

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  2. First off, thanks for clarifying the nuances between sexism and harassment. I think the writer may have wanted to note whether our reaction to the incident changed depending on the gender of the harassers, but since I’m not the writer, I’m unsure what her exact intentions were. As for what I could have done (“YOU could have gone over and spoken sternly…”), I don’t think I could have done much because I wasn’t there. This is a re-blogged post.


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